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These eyes are not your eyes
and these eyes are not the color that
your arid eyes might be.
No, I was not around
when those eyes of yours decided so
I refuse to kneel before the
sights you choose to see.

You can find almost anything from the internet.

We all have a weakness
But some of ours are easier to identify
Look me in the eye
And ask for forgiveness
We'll make a pact to never speak that word again
Yes, you are my friend

We all have something that digs at us
Atleast we dig each other
So when weakness turns my ego up
I know you'll count on the me from yesterday

If I turn into another
Dig me up from under what is covering
The better part of me
Sing this song
Remind me that we'll always have each other
When everything else is gone

We all have a sickness
That cleverly attaches and multiplies
No matter how we try

We all have someone that digs at us
Atleast we dig each other
So when sickness turns my ego up
I know you'll act as a clever medicine

If I turn into another
Dig me up from under what is covering
The better part of me
Sing this song
Remind me that we'll always have each other
When everything else is gone
Oh, each other… when everything else is gone

Oh oh oh oh oh oh....

If I turn into another
Dig me up from under what is covering
The better part of me
Sing this song
Remind me that we'll always have each other
When everything else is gone
Oh, each other… when everything else is gone
Oh, each other… when everything else is gone

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Dr. Phil sai testistä 55 pistettä, ja kun hän teki
tämän Oprahille hän sai tästä 38 pistettä.
On olemassa ihmisiä, jotka ovat valmiita maksamaan, jotta saisivat selville tämän testin tuloksen.

Tämä testi on erittäin mielenkiintoinen ja sen tekeminen kestää vain 2minuuttia. Muista kuitenkin tätä tehdessäsi, ettei tarkoitus ole kerätä eniten pisteitä (pienempi määrä pisteitä ei tarkoita huonompaa arvostelua).
Vastaa kysymyksiin totuudenmukaisesti, sillä tämä testi on vain sinua itseäsi varten.


Aloita.

1. Koska olet parhaimmillasi?
a. ( ) aamulla
b. ( ) iltapäivällä ja aikaisin illalla
c. (x) myöhään illalla

2. Tavallisesti kävelet...
a (x) melko nopeasti, pitkin askelin
b ( ) melko nopeasti, lyhyin askelin
c ( ) ei niin nopeasti, pää pystyssä
d ( ) vähemmän nopeasti, katse maahan luotuna
e ( ) hyvin hitaasti

3. Kun puhut ihmisille,
a ( ) seisot kädet puuskassa
b (x) pidät kädet yhdessä/taskuissa
c ( ) pidät yhden tai molemmat kätesi lantiolla
d ( ) kosket ihmistä, jolle olet puhumassa
e ( ) kosket leukaasi, korvaasi tai hiuksiasi

4. Rentoutuneena istut...
a ( ) polvet ja jalat yhdessä
b (x) jalat ristissä
c ( ) jalat venytettynä eteenpäin tai suorina
d ( ) käpertyneenä jalkojesi päälle

5. Kun jokin todella huvittaa sinua, reagoit...
a ( ) isolla äänekkäällä naurulla
b ( ) hillitymmällä naurulla
c ( ) hiljaisella naurahduksella
d (x) hymyllä

6. Mennessäsi juhliin tai sosiaaliseen tilanteeseen...
a ( ) teet näyttävän sisääntulon, jotta kaikki huomaisivat sinut
b (x) teet hiljaisen sisääntulon ja katselet ympärillesi tunnistaaksesi tuttuja kasvoja
c ( ) teet todella hiljaisen sisääntulon, jotta pysyisit mahdollisimman huomaamattomana

7. Jos joku keskeyttää sinut työskennellessäsi intensiivisesti, niin
a ( ) olet tyytyväinen tauosta
b ( ) olet ärtynyt keskeytyksestä
c (x) olet vaihtelevasti edellisiä vaihtoehtoja

8. Mistä seuraavista väreistä pidät eniten?
a ( ) punainen tai oranssi
b (x) musta
c ( ) keltainen tai vaaleansininen
d ( ) vihreä
e ( ) tummansininen tai liila
f ( ) valkoinen
g ( ) ruskea

9. Illalla, juuri ennen nukahtamista, makaat sängyssä...
a (x) selälläsi, vartalo suorassa
b ( ) mahallasi, vartalo suorassa
c ( ) kyljelläsi, vartalo taipuneena
d ( ) käsi pään alla
e ( ) pää peiton alla

10. Mistä näet usein unta?
a ( ) putoamisesta
b (x) taistelemisesta
c ( ) jonkin tai jonkun etsimisestä
d ( ) lentämisestä tai kellumisesta
f ( ) unesi ovat miellyttäviä


PISTEET:
1. (a) 2 (b) 4. (c) 6
2. (a) 6 (b) 4 (c) 7. (d) 2 (e) 1
3. (a) 4 (b) 2 (c) 5 (d) 7 (e) 6.
4. (a) 4 (b) 6 (c) 2. (d) 1
5. (a) 6. (b) 4 (c) 3 (d) 5 (e) 2
6. (a) 6 (b) 4. (c) 2
7. (a) 6. (b) 2 (c) 4
8. (a) 6 (b) 7 (c) 5 (d) 4 (e) 3. (f) 2 (g) 1
9. (a) 7 (b) 6. (c) 4 (d) 2 (e) 1
10.(a) 4 (b) 2. (c) 3 (d) 5 (e) 6 (f) 1

= 49 pistettä

YLI 60 PISTETTÄ: Toiset näkevät sinut turhamaisena, itsekeskeisenä ja äärimmäisen dominoivana. Toiset saattavat ihailla sinua ja toivoa olevansa hieman enemmän sinunlaisesi, mutta eivät aina luota sinuun. He saattavat myös epäröidä syvemmän suhteen luomista sinuun.

51 - 60 PISTETTÄ: Toiset näkevät sinut jännittävänä, impulsiivisena ihmisenä; synnynnäisenä johtajana, joka kykenee tekemään nopeita päätöksiä, joskaan ne eivät aina välttämättä ole niitä oikeita ratkaisuja. He näkevät sinut rohkeana ja seikkailunhaluisena, sellaisena,
joka yrittää kaikkea kerran, ja joka ottaa riskejä ja haasteita vastaan. Muut nauttivat seurastasi luomasi jännityksen ja säteilyn vuoksi.

41 - 50 PISTETTÄ: Toiset näkevät sinut tuoreena, eläväisenä,charmanttina,hauskana, käytännönläheisenä ja aina kiinnostavana; sellaisena henkilönä joka on usein huomion keskipisteenä, mutta onnistuu tasapainottelemaan asemansa kanssa kuitenkaan antamatta sen nousta päähän.
He myös näkevät sinut kilttinä, huomaavaisena ja ymmärtäväisenä; sellaisena henkilönä joka on aina valmis auttamaan ja piristämään muita ihmisiä. ~♥~

31 - 40 PISTETTÄ: Toiset näkevät sinut järkevänä, varovaisena ja käytännönläheisenä. He näkevät sinut fiksuna ja lahjakkaana, mutta myös vaatimattomana. Ei henkilönä, joka tekee ystäviä nopeasti ja helposti, mutta joka on erittäin lojaali ystävilleen ja joka odottaa ystäviltään myös samaa.
Ne, jotka oppivat tuntemaan sinut hyvin ymmärtävät, että vaatii paljon karistaa luottamuksesi ystäviin, mutta jos näin käy, vaatii myös paljon, jotta luottamus palautuu.

21 - 30 PISTETTÄ: Ystäväsi näkevät sinut varovaisena, hitaana, äärimmäisen tarkkana ja tiukkana suunnittelijana. He yllättyisivät paljon jos tekisit joskus jotain impulsiivista, tai pitkään
ja tarkoin harkittuasi toimisitkin vastoin tutkimustesi tulosta.

ALLE 21 PISTETTÄ: Toiset näkevät sinut ujona,
hermoilijana, joka tarvitsee toisia pitämään itsestäsi huolta ja tekemään päätökset puolestasi. Jotkut ihmiset pitävät sinua tylsänä.
Vain ne jotka tuntevat sinut hyvin, tietävät ettet ole sitä

Why does it feel like night today?
Something in here’s not right today
Why am I so uptight today?
Paranoia’s all I got left
I don’t know what stressed me first
Or how the pressure was fed
But I know just what it feels like
To have a voice in the back of my head

It’s like a face that I hold inside
A face that awakes when I close my eyes
A face watches every time I lie
A face that laughs every time I fall
{And watches everything}
So I know that when it’s time to sink or swim
That the face inside is here in me, right underneath my skin

It’s like I’m paranoid looking over my back
It’s like a whirlwind inside of my head
It’s like I can’t stop what I’m hearing within
It’s like the face inside is right beneath my skin

I know I’ve got a face in me
Points out all my mistakes to me
You’ve got a face on the inside too
Your paranoia’s probably worse
I don’t know what set me off first but I know what I can’t stand
Everybody acts like the fact of the matter is
I can’t add up to what you can

But everybody has a face that they hold inside
A face that awakes when they close my eyes
A face watches every time they lie
A face that laughs every time they fall
(And watches everything)
So you know that when it’s time to sink or swim
That the face inside is watching you too right inside your skin

It’s like I’m paranoid looking over my back
It’s like a whirlwind inside of my head
It’s like I can’t stop what I’m hearing within
It’s like the face inside is right beneath the skin

It’s like I’m paranoid looking over my back
It’s like a whirlwind inside of my head
It’s like I can’t stop what I’m hearing within
It’s like the face inside is right beneath my skin

The face inside is right beneath your skin
The face inside is right beneath your skin
The face inside is right beneath your skin

The sun goes down
I feel the light betray me
The sun goes down
I feel the light betray me

(the sun) It’s like I’m paranoid looking over my back
It’s like a whirlwind inside of my head
It’s like I can’t stop what I’m hearing within
(I feel the light betray me) It’s like the face inside is right beneath the skin

(the sun)It’s like I’m paranoid looking over my back
It’s like a whirlwind inside of my head
It’s like I can’t stop what I’m hearing within
(I feel the light betray me)It’s like I can’t stop what I’m hearing within
(the sun)It’s like I can’t stop what I’m hearing within
It’s like the face inside is right beneath my skin

What do I do to ignore them behind me?
Do I follow my instincts blindly?
Do I hide my pride from these bad dreams
And give into sad thoughts that are maddening?

Do I sit here and try to stand it?
Or do I try to catch them red-handed?
Do I trust some and get fooled by phoniness?
Or do I trust nobody and live in loneliness?
Because I can't hold on when I'm stretched so thin
I make the right moves but I'm lost within
I put on my daily facade but then
I just end up getting hurt again

By myself (myself!)
I ask why, but in my mind I find
I can't rely on myself (myself!)
I ask why, but in my mind I find
I can't rely on myself

I can't hold on
To what I want when IÂ’m stretched so thin
It's all too much to take in
I can't hold on
To anything watching everything spin
With thoughts of failure sinking in

If I turn my back I'm defenseless
and to go blindly seems senseless
If I hide my pride and let it all go on
Then they'll take from me till everything is gone
If I let them go then I'll be outdone
But if I try to catch them I'll be outrun
If I'm killed by the questions like a cancer
then I'll be buried in the silence of the answer

By myself (myself!)
I ask why, but in my mind I find
I can't rely on myself (myself!)
I ask why, but in my mind I find
I can't rely on myself

I can't hold on
To what I want when IÂ’m stretched so thin
It's all too much to take in
I can't hold on
To anything watching everything spin
With thoughts of failure sinking in

How do you think
I've lost so much
I'm so afraid
I'm out of touch
How do you expect
I will know what to do
When all I know
Is what you tell me to

Don't you (know)
I can't tell you how to make it (go)
No matter what I do, how hard I (try)
I can't seem to convince myself (why)
I'm stuck on the outside (x2)

I can't hold on
To what I want when I'm stretched so thin
It's all to much to take in
I can't hold on
To anything watching everything spin
With thoughts of failure sinking in

I can't hold on
To what I want when IÂ’m stretched so thin
It's all to much to take in
I can't hold on
To anything watching everything spin
With thoughts of failure sinking...

Lue loppuun saakka

On perjantai-ilta, ajat autoa.. (mieti millainen on auto jota ajat?)


Sinulla voi olla vain neljä ihmistä mukanasi. (Ketkä ovat autossa kanssasi?)


Ajaessasi sinä ja ystäväsi chillailette musiikin tahtiin. (mitä kappaletta kuuntelette?)

No, siinä te viisi chillailette musiikin tahtiin Yhtäkkiä
hullu kuski törmää teihin takaapäin!

Menetät auton hallinnan ja auto luisuu tietä pitkin.
Osutte hidaste töyssyyn ja auto pyörähtää ympäri päätyen katolleen nurmelle
tien viereen.

Makaat paikoillasi itkien, koska sinuun koskee niin paljon.
Et kuule muuta kuin hiljaisuutta. hiljaisuutta...

hiljaisuutta...

Yrität huutaa ystävillesi, mutta olet niin shokissa ja
suurissa kivuissa
ettet pysty edes puhumaan.

Makaat siinä elämäsi pisimmät 2 minuuttia, jotka tuntuvat
ikuisuudelta.


Viimein kuulet jotakin.


Kuulet ambulanssin sireenin,

etkä koskaan ole ollut niin helpottunut.


Makaat siinä, vieläkin autossa,

ajatellen perhettäsi, ystäviäsi, koulua, menneitä lomia, vanhoja
ystäviä, entisiä rakastajia.


Alat rukoilla itsesi ja muiden autossa olleiden puolesta.


Ensihoitajat vetävät sinut autosta, asettavat sinut
paareille ja nostavat ambulanssiin.

Sinä olet yksin.

Et saa mahdollisuutta nähdä muita kanssasi autossa olleita.


Matkalla sairaalaan sinä rukoilet itseksesi Kuolenko minä?'
Missä ystäväni ovat?
Ovatko he kunnossa?
Mitä minulle tapahtuu?

Kuolitko sinä vai et?
Mitä tapahtui ystävillesi, jotka olivat kanssasi autossa..?


He kaikki kuolivat. Kaikki muut autossa olleet kuolivat.
He ovat kaikki poissa.


Et koskaan enää näe heitä.


Ja mitä sinuun tulee..
Myös sinä kuolit.
Odota, sinä vain kuvittelit.. Eikö totta?
Mutta mitä jos tämä olisi oikeasti tapahtunut?

Mitä jos se oikeasti tapahtuisi sinulle?

Ajattele sitä..
Se auto oli VIIMEINEN auto, jossa IKINÄ olit ystäviesi kanssa

Ne neljä ihmistä olivat VIIMEISET henkilöt joita IKINÄ näit.


Valitsitko nämä neljä ihmistä viisaasti..
Vai toivotko, että joku muu olisi ollut autossa kanssasi?

Laulu, jonka tahtiin chillailitte oli VIIMEINEN laulu, jonka
IKINÄ kuulit.


Etkö toivokin, että sinulla olisi ollut mahdollisuus kertoa
kaikille heille kuinka heitä rakastit?


Etkö toivo, että olisit voinut kertoa vanhemmillesi viimeisen kerran,

että rakastit heitä?

Etkö toivo, että olisit voinut suudella
poika/tyttöystävääsi viimeisen kerran?

Toivotko, että olisit voinut kertoa ihastuksellesi kuinka
paljon pidit hänestä

Toivotko että voisit halata ystäviäsi vielä viimeisen
kerran?

Toivotko että sinulla olisi ollut mahdollisuus tehdä kaikkea tuota?

SINULLA ON YHÄ!

jos tämä viesti vähänkin kosketti sinua ole hyvä ja kopioi tämä omaan päiväkirjaasi sillä minua tämä todella kosketti ja haluan sanoa teille kaikille että välitän teistä todella paljon sillä sitä ei koskaan tiedä mitä voi tapahtua!

JA muista tämä sanonta: Elä jokainen päivä kuin se olisi viimeisesi.

Ja kun joku sanoo rakastavansa sinua, tiedä sen tarkoitus ja
tarkoita sitä kun itse sen sanot.


jos sinä et kopioi tätä niin olet kylmäsydäminen etkä välitä rakkaimmistasi! tämä voi olla sinun viimeinen mahdollisuutesi!

Kerro jokaiselle että välität
Jos sinä ajattelet, että jokin päivä unohdan sinut; vastaus
olisi,

EI IKINÄ ELÄMÄSSÄNI!

Jos kysyisit, mikä on minulle tärkeää; vastaus olisi SINÄ!!

Jos sinä kysyisit, pidänkö sinusta; vastaus olisi, Kyllä
ehdottomasti!
Sinä olet minun nauruni, minun puhdas helmeni, minun
enkelini..

Sinulla on 30 s tehdä yksi toive..

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jos kopioit tämän viestin päiväkirjaasi toiveesi toteutuu!

"So, you think you know something abut self-injury. Well, we'll see.

Have you ever felt so aggressive, afraid, angry, belittled, betrayed,
bitter, cheated, confused, depressed, deceived, disappointed, foolish, empty,
insecure, hopeless, frustrated, lonely, lost, miserable, numb, pained,
picked-on, rejected, small, sorry, stupid, suffocated, tense, terrified, useless,
un-wanted, un-loved, un-important, worried, wrung-out, worn-out,
withdrawn, ticked, tortured, trapped, and blank that you've turned to
hurting yourself just to feel something different?

I'm not talking about telling yourself how horrible, stupid, or ugly you
are. I'm talking about cutting, burning, hitting, bruising, picking, digging,
biting, and scratching at your skin. I'm talking about hair pulling, head-
banging, bone-breaking; interfering with your healing would behavior.

Just because people self-injure, doesn't mean you'll know about it.
Many people who self-abuse hide it, or do it somewhere normally un-seen.
They also blame animals, plants, and accidents for their marks.
It is important to remember that self-harm isn't masochism. There is,
however, a fine line between the two.

Masochists hurt themselves to get off, for the pleasure, the rush, and
the high.

Self-mutilators hurt themselves to release whatever it is that is
bothering them at the time. They may also cause harm to themselves as a
punishment for something they did or said.

This paper is for the un-educated and the skeptical people when it
comes to self-injury. Hopefully, you learn something you don't already
know. Whether it be that you are not alone, or that people who do this are
not monstrosities. They just are in need or help, and have found self-injury
to be their coping mechanism and their release from the horrible emotions
from everyday life.

Self-Injury can enter someone's life in many ways. Normally, a person has one or both of depression and/or eating disorder. Three out of four people who suffer from eating disorders or depression fall into the addiction of self-injury.

Self-Injury has many names. Self-Mutilation, self-harm, S.I.B's, Self Injurious Behavior, self-abuse, S.I., and Para-suicidal behavior are among the most common names. Many people say they cut, or burn, or use another S.I. behavior for the name of this disorder.

For years I have interfered with the healing of cat scratches. I've done this purposely because I liked to see the blood, and I liked the relieving feelings I got from it. Recently, I've been biting the skin around my fingernails to the point of bleeding. These are two examples of self-abuse. I've pulled my hair; sometimes so hard it would come out. I do this as a punishment or out of stress. I also have bitten my hand so hard it marked and bled. I've scratched cuts into my skin, banged my head on things and gotten knots, and done so for relief or punishment. Never once did I know what I did and do was and is self-injuryÂ… A psychological disorder.

I started to cut myself for relief, and read about self-harm. That is when I found out that I'd actually self-mutilated for years. That's also when I realized a lot of people don't know much about it. Most importantly, I realized a lot of people have it and don't get help because they don't recognize it as a problem.

Sometimes people find it hard to categorize self-harm. Some simple ways to tell are as follows:

· Self-injury is a harmful act done to oneself by only oneself.

1. Tattoos, piercing, ritual mutilation, and drug use are not self-injury acts

· Self-harm must involve physical violence.

1. Emotional abuse isn't self-harm

· Self-harm in done with the intention of hurting oneself.

1. Accidentally harming yourself isn't self-harm

· Self-harm is done with absolutely NO intention of committing suicide.

1. Although suicide is intentional, it does not classify as self-harm

2. Suicide is sometimes accidental when self-harming, but it isn't intentional.

Self-injurers usually have some sort of ritual they have when self-harming. This can range from what type of environment they have, what their procedure is, and what type of self-harming instrument they use.

Environment

The environments that are most common are that of the person's own home. The bedroom and bathroom are the most popular places to commit the self-harm acts. Sometimes people add candles, close curtains, have certain times of the day they harm themselves, or a number of other things.
If a past abuse has occurred that had been very traumatic, the setting and time of the self-abusive act could be very similar to the time of when the abusive act from another occurred.

Instrument

Some people refuse to use more then one type of instrument to commit the act of self-harm. Sometimes people will only use razors or knives. Other items people may use range from lighters, hammers, pencils, pens, erasers, safety pins, nails, to clippers. It is all about personal preferences and feeling.

Rituals

Some rituals that people have are preparing their environment. Pre-Injury activities usually consist of this. This can be very calming and satisfying to the individual. Post-Injury activities include using certain disinfectants and ointments. Taking a bath, writing, and drawing are also used to help ease a person after their abuse is committed.

Thoughts before self-harm are those of wanting to hurt oneself; of needing to, of thinking it is the only way they will feel better. They also think that if they only do it a few more times that they will be okay.

During the self-abusive acts, thoughts that people have are those of hating their appearance, personality, and everything about them. They also degrade their intelligence level. People also think that life sucks, and they just wish someone would care about them.

Afterwards, many cannot believe what they have done, and they feel weak and pathetic for doing the abusive act. They also worry about people finding out and not understanding, so they hide it and decide not to tell anyone. They also feel much better, despite the guilt and shame they feel afterwards.

Many things that self-injurers feel, think, and put up with are feelings of embarrassment, shame, guilt, isolation, alienation, comments, vulnerability, loss of control, and many other things.

Shame can be produced by the scars they have and by other external forces, such as parents.

Embarrassment is caused by "unexplained" bald spots, scars, bruises, and other visible, yet temporary marks.

Comments people make, such as, WOW! HOW DID YOU GET THAT! THAT MUST HAVE HURT, are extremely painful to the self-injurer. These comments can produce many negative feelings for the person they are directed at.

Isolation and alienation make people feel crazy and very alone. Not many people give the support and positive attention self-injurers need to over-come the acts they commit.

Vulnerability or loss of control can occur due to Dissociative self-abusive acts. When people come out of a Dissociative episode, losing touch with reality, and find the self-harm mark, it is hard to cope with. This isn't common, but it does happen. People feel vulnerable also because the blood and harm to their flesh give them so many positive feelings. They also feel that they need it. Self-harm is very addicting. Whether a person sees it as an art, or as a release, the addiction is clear and very, very strong.

Now that you know a little about self-injury, let's try and classify the who's and what's of self-harm.

Who self-mutilates?

Usually women do the harmful act at home, in a therapist's office, or other places like that, while men do it while in prison. Both sexes do self-mutilate though.

The act usually is started in the teenage years and increases in the twenties. Most people's need to harm ends in their thirties, but this is not always the case.

Substance abusers, who commit the act of self-harm, usually do so while under the influence. They usually don't commit this act any other time. People with depression and eating disorders self-mutilate because of the similar psychological effects.

Individuals with a past of psychiatric treatment and/or psychological, sexual, or physical abuse are at risk for self-mutilating.

What are the types of Self-Mutilation?

Psychotic/ Major S.I. includes the removal of body parts such as eyes, arms, ears, and genitals. This usually occurs in response to a visual or audible hallucination. This, however, is very rare.

Organic/Stereotypical S.I. stems from Autism, developmental disorders, and other psychologically induced disorders. This is influenced by physical or chemical problems in the body. Examples of this are head-banging and lip-biting. This is the second most common form of self-mutilation. This is common in the Mentally Retarded population.

Typical/Superficial/Moderate S.I. is due to emotional or psychological reasons. This helps people cope with feelings. Examples of this are cutting and burning. These people inflict moderate pain or injury to themselves. This is the most common type of self-injury.

Some people may wonder about the fashion of self-harm. It is important to remember that tattoos, body piercing, and scarification is body modification.

People who self-harm for the art of it do things like pick their scabs, set the area on fire with rubbing alcohol, put ink in the wound, and put cigar ashes in it. Sometimes they just brand the art on themselves using heated metal.

Body art and self-injury are very distinctive. Here are the body art vs. S.I.'s

1. Making a statement vs. Making self feel better
2. Uniqueness vs. Coping
3. Set apart from mainstream vs. Shame
4. Proudly show Vs. Secret
5. Conscious choice vs. Unable to control urge

Self-Injury is a very complex disorder. It releases beta-endorphins that stop pain, make you feel good, and release all those bad nasty feelings. It is also very addictive and symbolic.

Some people do it because it is the only thing that they can control. Some do it because they need to feel and it makes them feel alive. For them, the physical pain is better then the emotional pain.

Picking out someone who self-injures doesn't have to be hard. They are commonly middle to upper-class Caucasian female who is intelligent, well educated, and in the thirteen to thirty-five age groups.

Other factors are physical, emotional, and sexual abuse as a child, parental drug use or alcoholism, parental neglect or abandonment, parental loss from death or divorce, or tense or abusive parental relations.

People also have constant aims for perfection, strong or moderate dislike of body, frequent mood swings, feelings of anger, rejection, failure, loss, helplessness, or abandonment. They also show an inability to cope with strong emotions and inability to release or express emotions to others.

Self-injurers have difficulty expressing and healing emotions. They can't explain their injuries and wear long pants and shirts constantly. They also isolate themselves.

Since self-harm can accidentally cause death or destroy relationships, try and help self-injurers out, Here are some ways you can do that.

1. Attitude, be accepting and open. Don't be judgmental. Make them feel safe and secure in talking
2. Please recognize the severity of their problem. They really are unable to control their urges.
3. Don't get angry! Acknowledge that they are under stress and offer help.
4. If you or they believe they will really hurt or kill themselves, stay with them until the urge is gone. Encourage them not to be alone during these episodes.
5. Encourage them to talk with an adult.
6. This will be very difficult, stressful, and frustrating for you. Be willing to take on the responsibility.
7. Don't threaten them. It is hard enough to quit without worrying of doing the act and reaping the repercussions.

Remember that we are people too. We just some have deeper seeded issues. It doesn't make us freaks. It just makes us feel better."