"In the past few years, laboratory research has examined the power of our need for contact with others and has, in fact, mapped its physiological roots. Cooperation, for example, activates the "reward" areas of the brain, much as those areas are activated by the satisfaction of hunger. When we confront social rejection, the experience activates the same areas that light up when we are subjected to physical pain."
"I've been to so many therapists, coaches, and the like. To all I've asked the same question, "What am I doing wrong?". I try to be friendly, open, warm, caring. I take genuine interest in others. I listen. I understand all of this is to be undertaken without an attitude of expecting anything. So why do I alienate people? Why is it so hard to see a movie with anyone? Or a second cup of coffee? Or anything at all? It's like unless you already have friends, seeking out friends is taboo, a sign of neediness. No one wants you in their lives, and they certainly don't want to be in yours."